He doesn't hold down a job.
He plays video games all day.
He doesn't spend time with his family.
He never listens.
He doesn't take care of his money.
He never helps with the house-work.
Although I realize there is an attack on men and unrealistic expectations for them, I don't want my son to fall into any of these categories. If I let him play video games all day, why would that change when he is 30? If I never make him help with the house work, I'm going to be standing in front of a daughter-in-law who is worn out, depressed, and full of anger. This kind of tension in a marriage will effect my grandchildren.
River recently has had his cousins come over twice a week. There is a huge learning curve in the game of "sharing". As he gets older he going to learn that life is not always fair. No, I'm not going to seek out unfair situations to teach him this lesson but there is no doubt he is going to get in trouble someday just by association. (i.e - His cousin knocked over the lamp but because I didn't see it, they're all in timeout). Basically, the story of my childhood. The consequence of not learning this lesson is constant arguing between spouses- trying to prove that they were the victim of the situation. Honestly, I struggle with this. I play the victim too often and struggle to internalize my husband's hurt. I pray that this area of my life will be made whole so my children don't learn this as a norm for marriage.
All in all, my child and my parenting is covered in grace. I won't do everything perfect especially with the first child. And if River is lost on how to be a husband, he has to look no further than his handsome father. I hope my daughter-in-law will view my son as one of the greatest gift she ever received.
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